Jul 21, 2016
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출처 : tvseriesfinal.com
Husband Wants Long-Lost Sister to Remain That Way
DEAR ABBY: My husband and his sister had a rough childhood in foster care. Long story short, they lost contact for 10 years -- until now. She found us on Facebook and was desperate to know if she had found her brother or not. My husband ignored her. He isn't sure he ever wants to rebuild a relationship with her.
I know that's his decision to make, and if he doesn't want her in his life, that's fine. But I couldn't live with myself if I ignored her, too. I just wanted her to know she could stop looking and wondering if her brother is still alive. So I told her. She was grateful to have some closure and know that he is doing well, and she reassured me that she wouldn't contact him again unless he reaches out to her. Even if they never talk again, I think she deserved to know she had found him.
Now I feel guilty for going behind his back and meddling in things that aren't my business. But I can't imagine spending my whole life searching for a family member, when someone could have been honest with me and given me peace of mind. Did I make a terrible mistake, and should I come clean to my husband about what I did? -- FEELING GUILTY IN GEORGIA
디어 애비 : 제 남편과 남편의 여동생은 위탁보호를 받으며 힘든 어린시절을 보냈어요. 긴 이야기를 짧게 하자면, 10년동안 연락이 끊겼었어요. 지금까지요. 여동생이 저희를 페이스북에서 찾았고 자신의 오빠를 찾은게 맞는건지 간절히 알고 싶어했어요. 제 남편은 무시했어요. 여동생과 다시 관계를 만들어 가고 싶은지 확실치 않아 하면서요.
그가 결정해야 할 문제라는 것도 알고 남편이 여동생을 원치 않는다면 그것도 괜찮아요. 단지 저까지 그녀를 무시하는건 제가 견딜수가 없더라구요. 전 그녀가 더이상 그녀의 오빠가 살았는지 죽었는지 걱정하며 찾는걸 멈춰도 된다고 알려주고 싶었어요. 그래서 그녀에게 얘기했죠. 여동생은 어떤식으로든 결말을 갖게되고 그가 잘지내고 있다는걸 알게된것에 고마워했고 남편이 먼저 연락하기전에는 연락하지 않겠다고 저를 안심시켰어요. 만약 그 둘이 다시는 대화를 하게되는 일이 없더라도 전 그녀가 오빠를 찾았다는걸 알 권리가 있다고 생각해요.
남편 몰래 제일도 아닌것에 간섭한게 이제 죄책감이 드네요. 그렇지만 누군가가 솔직하게 얘기해줘서 마음의 평안을 줄수 있을때 제가 잃어버린 가족을 찾는데 제 평생을 쓴다는건 상상할수도 없어요. 제가 어마어마한 실수를 한걸까요? 남편한테 제가 한일에 대해서 솔직하게 털어봐야 할까요? -Georgia에서 죄책감을 느끼는 이 보냄
* meddle (in) : if you say that someone meddles in something, you are criticizing the fact that they try to influence or change it without being asked
